Because Nice Girls Don’t Get Angry

Friday – 8.55am

I’m sitting at my desk, sifting through emails and prioritising my day’s work. One of the directors bounds up to me with his keys jingling in his pocket.


“Sarah, we need a full information memorandum to give to Mr Super Rich Investor Dude at our meeting on Monday morning.”


My blood boiled.


Two weeks ago, I had asked him if he needed anything for this meeting. He’d said no.


I’d prepared these packs before and it took a solid week to get a good-quality draft written. How was I going to get it done? And why hadn’t he given me more notice. (And this certainly wasn’t the first time I was subject to the pressure of last minute requests by this particular director.)


But being the people-pleasing, diligent employee I was, I got to work. I wrote and I edited and I formatted and I included plans and drawings and spreadsheets and graphs and I copied chunks from previous presentations and I fretted and I sweated and I worked all weekend to finish the information memorandum.


Monday – 7.25am

I disable the office alarm and fire up my computer so that I can print enough colour copies of the charts before the 10am meeting.


Monday – 8.45am

My director arrives and I’m waiting at his office door with the presentation for review.


“Oh, we don’t need that anymore.”


Mr Super Rich Investor Dude had cancelled the meeting on Friday lunchtime and my director had forgotten to tell me.


I was furious.


I felt disrespected. He’d wasted my time, including my precious weekend. This wasn’t the first time this had happened to me. My heart raced, my cheeks burned and I mumbled something about telling me earlier next time.


And that night, I crunched my way through an entire pack of macadamia shortbread biscuits.


When I started using EFT to overcome my emotional eating, I noticed that the texture of certain foods related to the feelings I had in my body.


When I felt angry, I wanted to crunch and chomp and crack.

When I felt sad, I wanted softer, creamier food that could gently slip and slide around my mouth.

When I felt lonely, I wanted foods that filled my entire mouth and gave me a fleeting experience of fullness.


Anger is a particularly tricky emotion for women to deal with because we are culturally conditioned to suppress it.


Interestingly, research out of the University of Aberdeen has demonstrated that women who hold back feelings of anger may end up more irate in the long run.


In daily life this looks like biting your tongue, telling someone that “no, that doesn’t matter at all” and then exploding later. Ever done that? Yep, me too!


So…what should we do instead?

Avoiding situations that make us angry is virtually impossible. Fact: life throws curve balls and there are plenty of irritating people out there.


Suppressing our anger can cause bigger problems.


Crunching our way through a entire pack of biscuits serves a purpose but has long term health implications and isn’t a sustainable strategy.


EFT is a great way to acknowledge and process your feelings, without the food and without instigating all-out war with loved ones. And that’s exactly what today’s video is all about: Eating Because You’re Angry.


Just press play below or click this link.


Hope it helps!


Sarah x


PS And if you’re ready to heal your emotional eating once and for all, get in touch and we can discuss the life-changing magic of EFT. Simply email me here and I’ll get right back to you: